The Gentle Revolution

Let's talk about that voice in your head that's really good at pointing out everything you're doing wrong.

You know the one. It shows up when you:

❌ Make a mistake ("You're so stupid")

❌ Don't accomplish enough ("You're lazy")

❌ Compare yourself to others ("Everyone else is better")

❌ Try something new ("You're going to fail")

Most approaches to the inner critic try to silence it, fight it, or replace it with positive affirmations.

Self-compassion does something different: it gets curious about what the critic is trying to do.

Here’s the thing: Your inner critic genuinely believes it's helping you. It thinks: "If I'm harsh enough, you won't make mistakes. If I point out all your flaws, you'll fix them. If I criticize you first, others' criticism won't hurt as much."

It's like having an annoying bodyguard who thinks the best way to keep you safe is to attack you before anyone else can. Well-meaning? Yes. Effective? Not at all. It’s pretty destructive, actually.

TODAY'S PRACTICE: THE INNER CRITIC INTERVIEW (15 minutes)

Grab a journal or piece of paper.

Step 1: IDENTIFY

Think of something you've been criticising yourself about lately. Write down what your inner critic says. Exact words.

Step 2: GET CURIOUS

Ask these questions (write your answers):

• When did this voice first show up in my life?

• Who did it originally belong to? (Parent? Teacher? Culture?)

• What is it trying to protect me from?

• What does it think will happen if it stops criticising me?

• If this voice could keep me safe without hurting me, what would it say instead?

Step 3: ACKNOWLEDGE + REDIRECT

Place your hand on your heart and say (out loud or internally): "Thank you for trying to protect me. I know you think criticism keeps me safe. But it's actually keeping me stuck. I'm going to try a different way - one that's both kind AND helps me grow."

FIERCE COMPASSION FOR YOUR INNER CRITIC:

Sometimes tender compassion isn't enough. Sometimes you need to set a boundary with your inner critic. You can say to it something along the lines of: "Thank you for trying to help, but I will not let you speak to me this way anymore. You can share concerns without cruelty. I'm listening to your fear, but I'm done accepting your abuse." This is fierce self-compassion - protecting yourself from the voice that's supposed to protect you.

TODAY'S INVITATION:

Watch the below video to practise meeting your inner critic.

Notice when your inner critic speaks today. Instead of believing it or fighting it, just observe: "Oh, there's the critic again." You could give it a name, voice and shape if it helps.

Then place your hand on your heart and ask:

"What do I actually need right now?"

This isn't about making the critic disappear (it won't). It's about changing your relationship with it - from being controlled by it to being curious about it.

See you tomorrow!

Sini 💜

P.S. If the critic gets really loud during this practice ("This is stupid, you're wasting your time"), that's just the critic being the critic. Notice it, acknowledge it, and keep going anyway.